2023届高考英语考前冲刺限时训练

2023高考英语部分命题预测 C Susan MacLeod used to demand attention at work a little too often. “I would say, ‘Here's my idea and I think it's the best idea, and I got very annoyed when people didn't agree with me’,” she says. Many of us, like MacLeod, can be occasionally self-centred. It doesn't mean you have narcissistic (自恋的) personality disorder, a mental health condition defined partly by a deep need for attention and admiration. Nor does it mean you're a bad person: a healthy shot of narcissism allows us to speak up and confidently claim our rightful place in the world. Left unchecked, however, it can brush over the needs of others and hurt our relationships. Rod Wilson is a former clinical psychologist and the author of Thank You, I'm Sorry, Tell Me More. “The core of narcissistic tendencies is usually about some kind of wound in your personal history where you felt completely inadequate or abandoned and not valued,” he says in the book. As an adult, that person may start to compensate, masking their true self-image. In MacLeod’s case, she knew her parents loved her and did their best when she was little, but her artistic bent wasn’t encouraged. Her parents didn’t think she could draw. So MacLeod was overcompensating for an insecure childhood. Luckily, self-centred behaviors, like over-talking, can be switched on their heads with effort. It's not easy, but once we identify a narcissistic thread in our behaviour, trying to do the opposite can help. For instance, instead of entering a room and immediately launching into a story of your day, try asking your friend or partner a specific question about theirs. Continue with questions and interest. Meanwhile, it also helps to ask yourself questions like, “What are others experiencing?” rather than “How can others give me what I deserve?” Once people can name their narcissist tendencies, they are well on their way to dealing with them in a healthy way. “Start practising things that will change you,” says Wilson. “