内容正文:
When You’re Just Not Feeling Motivated
6 things you can try to overcome your resistance
KEY POINTS
Your path to motivation is unique, and you will have to find the approach that works best for you.
It can help to explore your own feelings, play around with self-judgment, and move your body.
Any little step — especially when you’re not “feeling it” — can move you in the right direction.
Some days, you are just not feeling it. You don’t want to get out of bed. You don’t want to make that difficult call, engage with your boring co-worker, or do that silly little exercise from your therapist. You don’t want to do any of those things – and yet your obligations leave little wiggle room. Whether you want to or not, you will have to show up. And whenever you’re “not feeling it”, it helps to have some strategies that can give you a push in the right direction. Without further ado, here are six things you can try to give your motivation a boost.
Tip 1: Get Curious About Your Feeling
We rarely ever take the time to investigate our feelings, so let’s do that right now: Where in your body do you notice the lack of motivation? And how can you tell? Take a moment to really feel your feeling, until you can roughly localize it in your body. Does it change? Or does it remain the same? Don’t try to force it to change, and instead just let it be there. Watch it for a while. If you’re getting bored, see if you can expand this feeling of “not wanting to” (yes, really), and lean into it. Notice what changes. Counterintuitive as it may sound, this has actually been shown to be an effective strategy for dealing with unwanted emotions; helping you to become more aware of your own experience, and teaching you to be with it.
Tip 2: Play Around With Self-Judgment
Chances are, you don’t just merely procrastinate, but also judge yourself for doing so. You may even have some insults ready whenever you don’t jump into action quick enough: “lazy piece of work,” “you can never get anything done,” o